blabbering/wandering

theangrytherapist:

My goal in writing this post isn’t to sell you my definition of man. It’s to challenge your beliefs. Years ago, while working at a non-profit and treating teenagers struggling with addiction, I learned that what they all had in common was an absent father. Either dad was not in the picture or he was emotionally unavailable. The result was blurred boundaries, low self worth, and very little awareness. It caused anger, and emotional voids that were filled with unhealthy habits.
Today in my practice, a common thread with many of my female clients is the way were treated by men and the affect it has on them. I believe men underestimate the impact they have in this world. I believe definitions need to be challenged. I believe every man should posses these four characteristics.
 1. Men respond.
For the 40 years I’ve been on this planet, generally (and I emphasize “generally” because I know not all guys are like this), most males don’t think of how their words and actions will affect others. An example of this is a husband who assassinates his wife’s character or verbally vomits on his children. Someone who gets into physical altercations to prove something. Someone who pulls from his ego instead of his heart.
It takes discipline, patience, and maturity to filter oneself and think about others before one responds. A response requires thought, meta-cognition. A reaction is instinctual. Boys react. Men respond.
 2. Men look inward first. 
They are willing to examine their defects. They practice transparency and non-defensiveness. They express how they feel. They don’t try to be someone they’re not. By walking with a mirror, they don’t get caught up in heated arguments. They handle confrontations by acknowledging, taking responsibility, and making choices. And they move forward, changed.
 3. Men have a cause. 
 Something worth fighting for. It doesn’t have to be to end world hunger. It can be to save a marriage. Fighting for one’s position in life. Expressing art. Sharing gifts. Being a better version of oneself. Something he believes in, even if others don’t. Whether it’s one’s character or an empire, men build. Boys deconstruct.
 4. Men take action. 
 Boys complain. I have to admit, I have only recently made a choice to stop complaining when things don’t go my way in life. Many habits like complaining and losing one’s temper stem from undisciplined thinking and the inability to manage emotions. I know many men who talk about change. Who talk about wanting to “fix” their relationship. To lose weight. Be a better father. To stop drinking, cheating, spending, hiding, and numbing. But only a few take action and climb that mountain daily. Only a few fall down over and over but keep getting back up. Only a few put their money where their mouth is.
Think about all the men you know in your life. Friends. Fathers. Uncles. Brothers. Coaches. Boyfriends. Husbands. How many posses all four? If they do, acknowledge them. Because we need more of them in this world.
- Angry
originally posted on mindbodygreen.com
Feb 24

theangrytherapist:

My goal in writing this post isn’t to sell you my definition of man. It’s to challenge your beliefs. Years ago, while working at a non-profit and treating teenagers struggling with addiction, I learned that what they all had in common was an absent father. Either dad was not in the picture or he was emotionally unavailable. The result was blurred boundaries, low self worth, and very little awareness. It caused anger, and emotional voids that were filled with unhealthy habits.

Today in my practice, a common thread with many of my female clients is the way were treated by men and the affect it has on them. I believe men underestimate the impact they have in this world. I believe definitions need to be challenged. I believe every man should posses these four characteristics.

1. Men respond.

For the 40 years I’ve been on this planet, generally (and I emphasize “generally” because I know not all guys are like this), most males don’t think of how their words and actions will affect others. An example of this is a husband who assassinates his wife’s character or verbally vomits on his children. Someone who gets into physical altercations to prove something. Someone who pulls from his ego instead of his heart.

It takes discipline, patience, and maturity to filter oneself and think about others before one responds. A response requires thought, meta-cognition. A reaction is instinctual. Boys react. Men respond.

2. Men look inward first.

They are willing to examine their defects. They practice transparency and non-defensiveness. They express how they feel. They don’t try to be someone they’re not. By walking with a mirror, they don’t get caught up in heated arguments. They handle confrontations by acknowledging, taking responsibility, and making choices. And they move forward, changed.

3. Men have a cause.

Something worth fighting for. It doesn’t have to be to end world hunger. It can be to save a marriage. Fighting for one’s position in life. Expressing art. Sharing gifts. Being a better version of oneself. Something he believes in, even if others don’t. Whether it’s one’s character or an empire, men build. Boys deconstruct.

4. Men take action.

Boys complain. I have to admit, I have only recently made a choice to stop complaining when things don’t go my way in life. Many habits like complaining and losing one’s temper stem from undisciplined thinking and the inability to manage emotions. I know many men who talk about change. Who talk about wanting to “fix” their relationship. To lose weight. Be a better father. To stop drinking, cheating, spending, hiding, and numbing. But only a few take action and climb that mountain daily. Only a few fall down over and over but keep getting back up. Only a few put their money where their mouth is.

Think about all the men you know in your life. Friends. Fathers. Uncles. Brothers. Coaches. Boyfriends. Husbands. How many posses all four? If they do, acknowledge them. Because we need more of them in this world.

- Angry

originally posted on mindbodygreen.com

archiemcphee:

As you know, we’re fascinated by miniature things. We even created a coffee cup for squirrels. They like to drink their morning coffee after putting on their tiny underpants.
Check out this awesome 1/12th scale replica of an 18th century tool chest. It was created by gifted miniaturist William Robertson, who has been creating incredible miniatures in Kansas City for over thirty years now.
The level of detail is astonishing. Look closely and you’ll see that this beautiful little chest and its contents are all fully functional:

“The chest’s metal lock actually functions, as do all of the tools (note how the mini wood plane has shaved the pencil in the photo above). Robertson spent about 1,000 hours making the tool chest, and he works almost entirely by hand. For more of Robertson’s work, see this audio slideshow by Fine Woodworking.”

Photo by Bruce Dale
[via Laughing Squid]
Nov 8

archiemcphee:

As you know, we’re fascinated by miniature things. We even created a coffee cup for squirrels. They like to drink their morning coffee after putting on their tiny underpants.

Check out this awesome 1/12th scale replica of an 18th century tool chest. It was created by gifted miniaturist William Robertson, who has been creating incredible miniatures in Kansas City for over thirty years now.

The level of detail is astonishing. Look closely and you’ll see that this beautiful little chest and its contents are all fully functional:

“The chest’s metal lock actually functions, as do all of the tools (note how the mini wood plane has shaved the pencil in the photo above). Robertson spent about 1,000 hours making the tool chest, and he works almost entirely by hand. For more of Robertson’s work, see this audio slideshow by Fine Woodworking.”

Photo by Bruce Dale

[via Laughing Squid]

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no fucks left to give.

i should have given a one day notice.

Oct 15
at work
Jun 18

sciencesoup:

Bioluminescent bacteria

Taking cues from the firefly, a Dutch electronics company has created a product called “Bio-light”—an eco-friendly lighting system that uses glowing, bioluminescent bacteria. They’re not powered by electricity or sunlight, but by methane generated by the company’s Microbial Home bio-digester that processes anything from vegetable scraps to human waste. The living bacteria are fed through silicon tubes, and as long as they’re nutritionally-fulfilled, they can indefinitely generate a soft, heat-free green glow using the enzyme luciferase and its substrate, luciferin. They’re kept in hand-blown glass bulbs clustered together into lamps, but you can’t light up your house with them yet—the glow isn’t nearly bright enough to replace conventional artificial lights. They do, however, get people to think about untapped household energy sources and how to make use of them. The company, Phillips, also envisions the use of these Bio-lights outside the home—for nighttime road markings, signs in theatres and clubs, and even biosensors for monitoring diabetes.

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my fave model
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my fave model

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fuckyeahzoeisabella:

everything about this picture is everything.
May 10

fuckyeahzoeisabella:

everything about this picture is everything.

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